Faith

n. Believing without any real certainty |



In reply to a comment that was made on 2:22 

"How do you get over a heartbreak?"

I don't think there is a model answer to this, but here are my 10 ways of dealing with a heartbreak (or any other forms of grief really). I love making lists so I shall make my suggestions in list-form :) 

  1. It's not enough to tell yourself not to think about it. Because if you know about ironic suppression & white elephants, which is essentially you thinking more about something when I just told you not to, you'd know that merely thinking "I need to stop thinking about him/her" would probably backfire. Badly at that. So, distract yourself with other things! Say baking, knitting, a picnic at the park, dedicating yourself to reading an entire series like Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings, etc etc etc. 
  2. Be adventurous . Open yourself to new experiences; maybe you'd find something else to be passionate about! 
  3. Don't rush yourself into a new relationship. Never never look to someone else just so that he/she can fill up the gap in your life. Give it time for new feelings to develop and as cliche as it sounds, let nature take its course
  4. Embrace the sadness. There is no denying that you'll probably see yourself drowning in tubs of Ben & Jerry's while watching romantic comedies that make you feel even worse about the breakup. So why not enjoy the process of it! It's not everyday that you can get away with those calories and hours of being a couch potato. With that being said...
  5. EAT. Food always makes me feel better! I'm not saying you should stuff yourself, but treat yourself to a moment of indulgence. It can be epicurean feasts like a sashimi buffet (YUM!)/steak on a grill or just simple and rustic dishes like a warm bowl of pumpkin soup.
  6. Do a little bit of reflecting. There are reasons as to why the person who was once so important to you isn't that important anymore. So look beyond petty anger and mull over why things ended the way they did and make it a point to learn from your mistakes so that you won't repeat them again. 
  7. Accept the loss for what it is and don't romanticise the past. Even now when I think back on Christmas 2012 ~ May 2013, I have this tendency to filter out all the bad things that happened and only think of the wonderful times. And I think that's what makes moving on so hard, because you only think of the "what if"s and things that make you feel like you're the one losing out. So if you must do some retrospection, remember things in its entirety - both the good and the bad. 
  8. Spend more time with your family and appreciate those around you. They're still there for you! So don't beat yourself up over one person who no longer matters to you and devote more time to those that stuck around despite your over-sensitivity/bad habits/constant whining ;) 
  9. Listen to some good upbeat music. Here are a few playlists you can try: Flannel FeelingYoung FolksA Brief But Infinite Forever, and since Christmas is approaching Christmas: Modern Classics 
  10. In spite of everything, love yourself even more. You may not be able to control how others feel about you, but you definitely are in control over the amount of love you give yourself. As Che from The O.C once said, "In order for two halves to be whole, each half must be whole on it's own." 
It is always easier said than done, but here's a relevant John Green quote for you: 

It is so hard to leave - until you leave. 
And then it is the easiest goddamned thing in the world. 

Know that things will always get better and have faith!


6 comments:

  1. I LOVE YOUR BLOG VIC!! It looks like it would fit into Kinfolk

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    1. aww hehe what a compliment!! thank you :)

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  2. blog more please!

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    1. i'll update again soon before i fly on Friday!

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